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Whistle While They Work! by James J. Jones, Ph.D.
Introduction (cont'd)
Will Your Family "Crash and Burn?"
Aeronautical engineers must understand the principles of flight, the effects of thrust, drag, gravity and how to build an airfoil (the wing) so that it will produce sufficient lift to allow a five ton metal object to fly. Many men died trying to fly before these simple principles were understood. They just kept "flying" their contraptions off cliffs and piers, and dying no matter how hard they tried. All this, in spite of the fact that they were all very sincere.
Misguided effort, enthusiasm and sincerity can't substitute for knowing the correct principles of flight. You just can’t "fake it" where flying is concerned. Neither can good intent or even the deepest parental love make up for a lack of knowledge about parenting. Sadly, some of our most "sacred" ideas about raising children are dangerously wrong; therefore, many families, parents and children just "crash and burn."
This book is part of my effort to teach parents to understand and use the correct principles
of parenting. Our problem is two fold:
- First, we must get out of the heads of parents the many false
notions about parenting they are handicapped by, and
- Second, we must teach them the correct concepts
and principles of parenting.
Parents who practice the principles outlined in this program report that the changes in themselves and their children have truly been miraculous. They are happy and at peace within themselves. They are "flying." They enjoy the assurance that they are parenting correctly and when issues arise that are problematic with their children, they are understanding and act wisely and with confidence.
These parents are not driven by fear, anger or guilt. They are able to be loving and supportive of their children, and they provide that voice of calm in the storm so needed in the home today. The absolute necessity of understanding and applying correct principles in any field of endeavor should be obvious to any intelligent person. Correct parenting is vital. If you do not learn and apply the correct principles of family flight sooner or later you will crash and burn because you cannot fake correct parenting.
The Two Great Opposing Beliefs about the Nature of Man
The first belief system is that people are (and ought to be) free to choose for themselves in life. People inherently have the power to choose for themselves. Therefore, they learn how to avoid pain, and how to achieve happiness in life, by experiencing, and by being held accountable for, the consequences of their choices. People have the power to think and believe as they choose; therefore, they are accountable and should be held personally responsible for the consequences of those choices.
Having power to choose for oneself, but at the same time being inexperienced in life, obviously results in individual mistakes and a very imperfect world. Making mistakes in life and learning from experience is how we grow. It is called trial and error. It is how we learned to walk, talk and ride a bike. It is one of the ways we learn things, by the consequences of our choices. Mistakes are part of the learning equation and not some terrible, evil thing -- although some mistakes have tragic results.
The second belief system teaches that we people are not capable of making the "right" choices in life. Therefore we must be controlled and forced to do what others believe is best for us.
This book is based on the first belief system.
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