GREETINGS:
Greetings to Parents everywhere from your new editor, Lillie.
OK then, let’s go ahead and “FIX
THE KIDS! This was the name of Dr. Jones’s parenting
program for years, and also the name of his first book,
it remains the same phone number for the program –
1-800-FIX-A-KID.
Is this name a tongue in cheek phrase or do we need to fix
our children? Actually no! Dr. Jones tells us that the PARENTS
need fixing, not the children, the children are just fine
(excluding some problems later on in life for some of our
precious ones.) Guess what, the parents mess up the kids
with incorrect parenting principles and practices. Let’s
study and learn so we won’t have to ‘fix’
any child!
QUESTION
FROM A SUBSRIBER: “Dr. Jones, you say
never argue with a child – how do I do that?”
From Dr. Jones’s book ‘Are
Your Kids Driving You Nuts’ pp. 27-33. Dr. Jones
discusses the THREE NEVERS. One of the
‘nevers’ is never argue. Today we will discuss
one phase of this problem, next newsletters the other two
phases. Dr. Jones tells us that our children do not argue
to get more information from us, they have other motives!
Are there any good reasons for parents to argue? NO!
Why to we do it then, so we can show them a great reasoning
process or somehow they will absorb our great pearls of
wisdom…Kids have many reasons to argue, you don’t
have any reasons, so avoid it. Avoid the argument of WHY!
One way of avoidance is to use the sponge affect: “Tell
me, tell me more, oh, and what next, oh, yes, I see, and
then…..When they have exhausted themselves from all
this, you then say no, and remember to avoid the whys.
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Attention
teenagers: NO is a complete sentence!
DAD’S
CORNER: Have fun with your children, get down
and try and remember what it was like to be a child, then
act that way, they’ll love you for it, and your parenting
efforts will be much easier.
MOM’S
CORNER: FAMILY ALERT, FAMILY ALERT!
Notice to all family members: M is for Mom, not maid!!!!!!
SOMETHING
TO THINK ABOUT:
Tell your children how great they are, and tell others in
their presence. Don’t dwell solely on their achievements
but talk about their great characteristics, their antics,
and fun and funny experiences. Talk about their words and
acts of love, and of their willingness to perform chores,
and do acts of charitable kindness and service These are
some of the things that will help them with their self esteem
and they will feel loved and worthwhile. Taking a minute
and noticing and commenting on these things will carry them
far into the adult world. We will talk more of positive
and negative strokes later..
Love
to all,
Lillie
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