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Introduction (Cont'd.)
A sample strategic plan
Each family is unique, and therefore the time required to complete each phase can differ, as well as the order in which the program is introduced; it depends on the family.
Phase 1
(One to two weeks)
- Review all materials as thoroughly as you can; listen to the first four tapes.
- Implement the "Three Nevers" (parent action only); stop lying, arguing, and criticizing.
- Study and highlight Chapter 1, "Parent Traps" in the resource manual.
- Councils: Hold study meetings with spouse daily if possible and review your progress. Start holding Executive Council meetings (with spouse) as often as needed.
- Have a date night with your spouse with absolutely NO discussion about the children.
- Complete the Color Code test; review and discuss it.
Phase 2
(One to two weeks)
- Begin daily scanning: everything you have previously read in the manual.
- Study and highlight Chapter 2, "Correct Principles" and Chapter 4, "Family Government".
- Listen to tapes 5 through 8; review tapes 1 through 4 as necessary.
- Councils: Continue to hold study meetings with your spouse each day, reviewing progress and Executive Councils as needed.
- Have regular weekly date night, again with NO discussion of the children.
- Begin using concepts and principles wisely (not too much at once), including Family Councils, first with spouse (practice) and then with children.
Phase 3
(One to two weeks)
- Continue daily scanning of all material marked and highlighted (quickly, a few seconds per page) for five to ten minutes per day (Chapters 1 and 4).
- Study and highlight Chapter 5, "Behavior Modification" and Chapter 6, "Token Economy".
- Listen to tapes 9 through 12, and review tapes 1 through 8 as necessary.
- Councils: Continue study meetings with your spouse each day, reviewing progress, and meet in regular Executive Council (spouse) as needed.
- Have regular weekly date night, again with NO discussion of the children.
- Hold Family Council with children and explain to them the Family Council system, as well as the Token Economy, charts and earning systems. Set a date for beginning the Token Economy (How soon can we start earning money?).
Phase 4
(One to three weeks)
- Continue the quick-scan technique for ten to fifteen minutes a day.
- Study and mark the remaining chapters carefully.
- Finish tapes 13 through 16 and review as needed.
- Continue Executive Council and joint study with spouse, critiquing and reviewing regularly.
- Continue regular date nights.
- Continue regular Family Council meetings at least weekly.
Phase 5
(Monitoring and Improving)
Continue to do all of the following:
- Scan for 15 to 30 minutes daily, chapter by chapter as necessary.
- Start your parenting group with selected friends.
- Review the tapes daily per subject as necessary.
- Continue Executive Councils and spousal study as needed.
- Hold weekly date night, and remember, NO KID TALK!
- Hold regular Family Councils including the children in your review of the program and individual progress (rewards).
Parents Beware!!!
At this point the tapes and written material have been studied well enough to give you a good foundation for leading out. However, while there is a natural tendency to experience the momentum of optimism and excitement as the program is introduced, it is just as natural to experience strong opposition as the novelty wears off and certain individuals determine that they liked it better the "old" way. This is the phenomenon of the family system desperately struggling to get back to its dysfunctional state (homeostasis).
What is the most critical point in recovery? It is when Mom and Dad decide that they are truly willing (or unwilling) to pay the price to make the changes in the family that will produce happier and more capable children and assure peace, harmony and order in the home. If you give in, or give up now, it will be much harder to change later. Are you willing to pay the price?
Remember:
No other "success" can compensate for failure in the home!
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