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Introduction (Cont'd.)
Purpose of the tapes
The purpose of the tapes initially, is to give you great amounts of information, and expose you to new ideas and principles and some "How To" techniques. Also, as you continue to review the tapes months and even years from now, you will be able to instantly recall the Correct Principles which you have forgotten. Listening to the tapes again and again keeps you sharp and pulls you out of the bad parenting habits that we all have a tendency to fall into. Parents find that months later the tapes continue to validate and support what they are doing and keep them working consistently together. The tapes encourage and inspire us to "hang in there."
How to use the tapes
Go through all of the tapes on a regular basis and listen more often to those tapes that deal with your most difficult problems. Listen to the tapes in your car, at work, during breaks or while doing chores at home. The tapes were meant to be fun, light, entertaining and still full of information and encouragement. Do not just listen to your favorite tapes over and over. It is not usually necessary to take a lot of notes, but you will want to stop the tape when you are struck with a great idea of how you can use the principles in your family. Record all such inspirations in the margins of this manual and review them as you study the manual.
Resource Manual uses
- In some cases it is a source of information on parenting principles that is broader and deeper than the tapes provide.
- It provides the master forms, charts, and explanations of how to use them.
- It has an abundance of terms and parenting concepts that you must understand.
- It is organized in such a way that you can easily find topics and principles that you need to get to fast for easy reference and problem solving.
- It has a treasure of supplementary reference materials to give special emphasis as needed.
- Most importantly it is for daily "quick reference".
How to prepare for scanning
- As soon as you get the manual, open it and begin exposing yourself to the new terms and concepts in each section. Quickly turn the pages and notice the topics and subheadings. Turn page after page, spending just a few seconds on each page. Thumb through the chapters and notice the heading and questions. Take about an hour or so to skim the whole manual.
- Read carefully each section and highlight; this step is vital. It is the process of reading the manual section by section from beginning to end. As you read, highlight with a yellow marker everything that is important to you. Write your personal comments or good ideas in the margins. Mark, highlight, annotate, underline, circle, or do whatever it takes to make every page your page. Make sure that you understand and that you get the point or message of each paragraph. Every page is full of principles that are easy to understand. Highlight or mark each important concept in such a way that when you are reviewing that page again, the important information on that page will seem to jump off the page at you.
- After you have thoroughly read, understood and marked a section, you are ready for future "scanning". Remember that a good general always holds the ground he has captured because he does not want to pay for it twice in time, equipment and lives. Therefore, once you have spent the time and effort to understand the principles in a section, you do not want to forget (lose) them, and have to pay the price again in time and effort to learn them over.
Repetition, quick scan and review
The way to remember and drive the principles deeper into your mind is by reviewing them time after time. This is done by simply scanning over each page for a few seconds noting the titles, subtitles, and the parts you have highlighted. When scanning, force yourself to move rapidly. Quickly recall each concept, think about it for a second or two, and then move to the next one. As you become more and more familiar with the topics, you will soon be scanning some pages at the rate of just a few seconds or so, reviewing and hunting for items that you have forgotten.
You will find that when problems occur in the home, the situation itself will trigger your recall process and program information will flood into your mind. Some people, after reviewing for a couple of months, can actually see, in their mind's eye, the pages that they have been scanning. By constantly (daily) reviewing the sections you will become so familiar with the material that you can review an entire section in just a few minutes. Remember: If you do not highlight and underline first, you will not have anything to "recall" when you scan.
Some parents scan each morning for 10 to 15 minutes in bed; others scan just as they retire at night. Some scan in the bathroom while others review on their lunch break; whatever works! This process almost becomes like speed reading as your eyes quickly glance at the major concepts on each page. Sometimes, as you scan, you will review and read again certain parts that have been forgotten; then you will go back to scanning again. In this way parents can master and internalize the simple concepts of good parenting in just a few weeks.
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