Contents of Are Your Kids Driving You Nuts? How to Avoid Devastating Parent Traps
Introduction
· Book Dedication
· Acknowledgements
· A Special Thanks
· Note to Parents
· The Great Question
Section One
The Lies: Mission Impossible!
Chapter 1: Parenting Myths, Falsehoods and Lies
Good parents raise good kids; bad parents raise bad kids.
Chapter 2: Freedom of Choice
Must man be free to choose, or should he be forced to do what’s right?
Chapter 3: Mission Impossible
Can parents always be in control of their children?
Section Two
A Few Devastating Parent Traps!
Chapter 4: What is a Parent Trap?
The harder you try, the harder you can fall.
Chapter 5: The Control Trap
The greatest pitfall and misconception parents have.
Chapter 6: The Trap of Anger
The key to understanding why we get angry.
Chapter 7: The Trap of Rage
What is the Rage Gauge?
Chapter 8: The Traps of Arguing and Contention
How do you stop the contention and arguing in your home?
Chapter 9: The Traps of Lying and Inconsistency
Are you lying to your children?
Chapter 10: The Traps of Being Critical and Unforgiving
Discounting, shaming and rejection.
Chapter 11: The Teenage Retirement Trap
How are you retiring your children?
Chapter 12: The Rescuing Trap
How kids are set up to be at high risk for drug abuse and suicide.
Chapter 13: The Lecturing and Insight Traps
Boring! Don’t they already know 99% of what you’ll say?
Chapter 14: The Nagging Trap
Kids don’t see nagging as counsel or support.
Chapter 15: The Traps of Conditional Love and Acceptance
I will only love you if you do what I want.
Chapter 16: The Parental Disunity Trap
A house divided against itself cannot stand.
Chapter 17: The Quick-Fix Trap and Making Exceptions
Avoiding the real problem.
Chapter 18: The Trap of Misusing Rewards and Punishments
Without a plan…Without a clue.
Chapter 19: The Trap of Excessive Punishment
The more you punish, the less effective it becomes.
Chapter 20: The Trap of Favoritism
The temptation to love the easiest one more than the difficult one.
Chapter 21: The Surrogate Spouse Trap
Emotional Incest.
Chapter 22: The Scapegoat Trap
Finding a "safe" place to vent our negative emotions.
Chapter 23: The Traps of Guilt, Unrealistic Expectations and Perfectionism
The formula for shaming and failure.
Chapter 24: The Traps of Button-Pushing and Overreacting
Are the kids punching your hot buttons?
Section Three
Are You a Healthy or Toxic Parent?
Chapter 25: Toxic Parents: Undisciplined Disciplinarians
Chapter 26: Escaping the Parent Traps
Chapter 27: The Healthy Parent and Functional Family
Chapter 28: Peace and Joy in Letting Go
Chapter 29: The Parables
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Are Your Kids Driving You Nuts?
How to Avoid Devastating Parent Traps
Are you tired of...
Nagging and Criticizing?
Scolding and Threatening?
Lecturing and Arguing?
Getting Angry and Raging?
Shouting and Hitting?
Why are you giving yourself a headache?
Are Your Kids Driving You Nuts? is a book that gives you simple, real-world techniques to bring peace to your home so that you will never have to nag, criticize, argue with, or get angry at your kids again!
James Jones has a down to earth approach that teaches the principles of correct parenting with humor and common sense. You will find practical, easy to understand solutions to many common parenting problems... and they really work!
"I was beginning to feel like all I ever did was yell and complain at my kids. It's a miracle what these simple ideas have done to bring happiness and cooperation to our home... Our relationships have never been better."
-- B. Kimball
Mesa, Arizona
"The principles in this book literally saved our family."
-- S. Williams
Lake Forest, California
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